When Toxic Masculinity Meets Sexual Assault: Why Boys Fear Coming Forward

Every time a boy comes forward as a victim of sexual abuse, the wannabe lady-killers crawl out from under their rocks and cry “why not me??” People wonder why boys don’t talk.

BRAVE BOY, HARD STORY

When I jumped onto Twitter this morning and checked out the trending tab, I saw Cinnpie and wondered what tf is a Cinnpie? and immediately wished I’d remained blissfully ignorant. Long story short, she’s gamer who, when she was twenty-four, sexually assaulted a fellow gamer who goes by Puppeh – and was only fourteen years old at the time. For the long version, read Puppeh’s own words then come back cause this piece isn’t what happened to him then but some of the comments he’s receiving now. And I’ll give you the warning I never had – people fucking suck.

My experience with Cinnpie
Read: https://t.co/fUXxYXshhc
— Puppeh (@PuppehSSB) July 1, 2020

Ready?

As always happens when news of a boy – someone under eighteen – being sexually abused by an adult woman – someone over eighteen – there’s a lot of seriously disturbed assholes who don’t see what all the fuss is about. After all, what fourteen-year-old boy doesn’t want his peepee touched by the pretty lady?

What with all the hormones and erections and masturbatory fantasies everyone with a penis is always wanting one orgasm after another. Its natural. Even if he’s plied with alcohol and unable to make sense of what’s happening to him, he deserves those high fives and congratulatory back pats cause bro, you got laid?

Lmao you should feel lucky man pic.twitter.com/0ZbMj5F2YP
— May I stand unshaken? (@realfaezhusni) July 1, 2020

EXCEPT

Minors can’t consent. We have laws about this. We also have science showing how bad it is for a minor to be used sexually by an adult. Doesn’t matter how hard that boner is, no still means no (and yes also means no when the person can’t legally say yes) and if you can’t accept that please have a sit down with Chris Hansen because you, my friend, are cool with pedophilia and rape and I don’t trust you around children. Or adults. Or pets.

Sexual abuse has a huge impact on a child and can affect every aspect of the rest of his life. Puppeh not only suffered then but continued to do so as he was forced to deal with the pain of what she did and keeping silent. And, within minutes of his reveal, toxic replays were sent and don’t you think the boy’s suffered enough? When someone comes forward, it shouldn’t be treated as a joke; a survivor of childhood sexual abuse deserves support and compassion, not bullshit dick-measuring contests that all those Chad-lite fuckers would fail anyway cause we all know they’re really incels who couldn’t get laid if the future of humanity was at stake.

GIRLS GET CALLED LIARS AND WHORES.
BOYS ARE CONGRATULATED ON THEIR ASSAULT.

So did you like it or nah? If you liked it well you’re lucky lol, if you didn’t well sorry man.
— SIMONE LAZZARI (@SIMOMEGA69) July 1, 2020

Don’t project your fragile masculinity on a kid. It’s pathetic. Not even those other dipshits replying “so jealous” and “I’d’ve tapped that” actually could’ve or would’ve. And that’s fine. No one should expect a child to go all in on something as serious as sex. You can’t have a go till you’re ready – and no one would end up a felon. All you do when you turn it into a dirty joke is show yourself to be self-centered assholes who can’t come to grips with their non-existent sex life.

So these acts were consensual and feelings reciprocated? Having a relationship, then
deciding later you don’t like the person and slandering them? That isn’t brave, it’s petty.
— Ree (@GitGudRee) July 1, 2020

Is it really that hard to not be a dick? is empathizing with someone else’s pain really so hard? Can y’all not lie about the Casanova you weren’t at the ripe old age of fourteen and just admit you were an awkward virgin who’d barely begun to figure out your preferred jack off technique? No, y’all weren’t primed and ready to stud all over that big-tittied substitute teacher and, no, you’d have ended up as scared and scarred as Puppeh if someone ten years your senior had taken advantage of you. So stop. Like, now. It’s hard enough coming forward without creeps and pervs turning it into a real-life porno.

Moral of out story: don’t be a dick, dick.

As for Puppeh, he has my support. What he did took courage and I applaud him for that. I hope he’s able to get the love and support he needs to finally begin the healing process and reclaim what he lost when Cinnpie manipulated him into doing things he wasn’t ready or willing to do. If you are the victim of sexual abuse, speak out. Tell a loved one, a trusted friend, teacher, someone who can help. You can also contact RAINN for even more resources. You can also contact me and I’ll do what I can to help you find the help you need. And remember, you are not alone. You did nothing wrong. You did not deserve what happened to you. And you are worth helping.